I'm not a but everyone tells me I act like one. Any advice to help me stop scaring off men?

You probably don't believe me, but you can't sound like a based off of things you say -- meaning no guy is going to think "oh, she's a " from what you're saying. Comments like you're talking about make you sound flirty to a guy, not gay. We just don't pick up on the thing; our brains don't work like that. Unless you say "Oh hi! Name's Karen; yeah, I'm a " then a guy won't ume you are a . Now, if you're putting off the lesbian vibe while clinging on to another girl or say something about a "partner" then that's where the impression comes from.